meet wendy haynes,
leading australian wedding & civil celebrant
I love my work and have been passionate about celebrancy since I was appointed in 1995. 
I love my work and have been passionate about celebrancy since I was appointed in 1995. 
more about WendyA dear friend spoke to me about the death of her horse, Cobber, and forwarded me the story of the time she spent with him at his death and the simple but beautiful ceremony that unfolded. I share it here in honour of all our animal friends.
In Margot’s words:
I would love to share my story of the final hours of a brave, gentle and patient friend, my horse Cobber who has been in my life and followed me to every new location since his birth 25 years ago.
It was extremely difficult to watch him suffer from severe colic for 24 hours and even with the pain relief and treatment from the vet in the early stages, his condition slowly deteriorated. I maintained a sense of presence and sat with him.
When I stayed fully in the present moment, I noticed I did not fear death. I simply had to respond (as opposed to react) to whatever I was faced with at that very moment. I am no stranger to death and grief after my daughter’s tragic accident and have discovered an enormous reservoir of courage and strength available to me now.
My yoga and spiritual practice played a major part in the profound experience I had during Cobber’s last 4 hours. It is very easy to slip into the emotional layer of our being in such challenging situations but when I continually remembered the Truth, that we are all connected and that the soul is eternal. Every breath I took I offered to the highest and dedicated it for my companion’s passage to beyond. There was such a clarity and freedom being in that space rather than clouded by my own beliefs, emotions and patterns.
At one stage I was sitting very close to Cobber who was standing with his head drooped, his breathing laboured, I did a meditation that expanded my awareness out from the physical form of my body yet still deeply connected to the Earth. I felt as if I merged with Cobber and then the singing birds, the sky, the planet and the Creator. It was the truth of oneness.
I kept this connection as I started to sing and prayed as if this was a divine offering of compassion and unconditional love, my final gift for this noble soul.
I must explain that this is so far from the person my horse knew all those years ago. During those last few hours I discovered that all the times I rode him and let others ride him, as the easy going horse anyone could ride, all the things I expected of him he did without a choice really.
As I asked for his forgiveness of my ignorance, I realised that he predominantly cares for being treated in the most loving way that he can understand in his equine form. A pure divine expression, yet we forget this in our daily interactions and world of doing and achieving. I was so grateful for the chance to just offer love in its highest form.
The very ending was still distressing as I watched him stagger and fall to the ground, struggling for breath and consumed with intense pain.
Helplessly I cried and called to God to stop the suffering, to help my honourable friend and then I chanted the Gayatri Mantra (a sacred Sanskrit prayer) for the presence of divine light. In hindsight it was similar to the transition process of birth where there is an intense period as the child moves through the birth canal, yet the soul remains whole and complete.
As Cobber lay still I rested my head on his neck and stayed there for I don’t know how long, the suffering was over and there was a deep stillness in the peace I experienced.
Cobber’s last gift to me was to experience an amazing healing and sense of communion with all of creation, the union of our souls in an existence beyond time and space - he is with me in me around me, always. My daughter is too. At times I have struggled to believe this but now thanks to Cobber there is no doubt in my mind that we just need to remember the simple truth of God, the Divine, the creator, whatever one may name this presence, that exists and is sacred in each living being that comes before us. We get to experience the “Godness” of each other for a short time in a physical form and then we are once again reunited with the eternal spirit of all existence.
What honourable beings and spiritual teachers our horses are if only we could all awaken to this truth. Cobber was a part of my life when I was quite ignorant and has been so patient with me as I slowly learned how to see these sentient beings as highly evolved spiritual beings with amazing big hearts just waiting to show us the way to a truth that they have never forgotten.
The Horse, such a magnificent symbol of purity, nature, freedom and truth. For five thousand years, humans have innately known there is something special about connecting with a horse.
Simply stated, Cobber helped me to see God in him and that we are all equal and special, that my purpose is to love and care with kindness and sincerity with my whole heart. This is what living in the light is all about. Even in his death Cobber was a great teacher.
The whole family took part in his burial and goodbyes which included all the practical aspects of lending machinery to dig a grave and moving Cobber’s body which I am eternally grateful for my husband, Steve’s strength to organise all of this. He even tried his best to have Cobber carried by the tractor in the most dignified way possible. The girls and I followed the tractor across the paddock on a very hot summer day and lay flowers, poems and kisses as our final gifts. We will plant a lovely shade tree in the winter to mark his resting place.
I feel so honoured that I was able to help my equine partner in his time of death. Whether animal or human we can honour the sacredness of all life, all of existence and remember our infinite nature.
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