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how to discover the right words for your wedding ceremony

quotation markDo you want a ceremony that really speaks to you?

One that comes from your heart and really creates a powerful celebration of your love and friendship?

A ceremony that makes the beginning of your marriage rich with meaning and your wedding day extra special? 

There are so many choices to be made – how many guests and who to invite, wedding dress,  flowers, rings, catering, wedding car, music, hair, make up… Each of these is important in its own right yet when it comes down to it, the jewel in the crown is the actual ceremony. Though each wedding is different in so many ways, there are some ways in which they are all the same. As well as being an expression of shared love, it’s the creation of something new, a partnership in the journey of life. One of the most powerful and unforgettable moments of your wedding day will be when you stand facing one another to share your vows of love and commitment.

On your wedding day you will want a ceremony that will be a treasured memory for many years to come – a ceremony that inspires you both and is lots of fun for everyone present. Whether you are having a small and intimate occasion or a gathering of the great clan, the ceremony is an important start to your married life.

Developing your ceremony is like watching a masterpiece unfold. A few ideas here, answers to questions there, a bit of research… then, as you bring it all together, suddenly it starts to take shape.

But where do we start, I hear you say.  First of all you will need to check with your celebrant or priest just what their requirements are.  Find out how much you can create or contribute to your ceremony. There are of course the legal requirements that must be included.  Talk to your officiant about what you would like and what your vision is for your special day.  Then gather your resources – the book, Create Your Own Inspiring Wedding Ceremony, is a great place to start.  

On your wedding day, when you face one another and hold each others hands, what are you giving? What are the gifts that you will be sharing with each other throughout your many years together?  The following is an example:
Your hands together will nurture your love and your relationship. Hold each other with great respect and gently hug one another often. In times of struggle, may they help you to relax and feel safe and loved. In times of joy, may they join in celebration. May these hands that are given to the other freely and without reservation be blessed with strength and tenderness.

You have given to each other great care and support over the many years you have been together. In holding hands today, you are affirming your friendship and devotion to the love you share and your commitment to a union filled with integrity and respect.

May these hands continue to build a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to loving. May they always be held by one another for many more years to come.
If as a couple, you would like to explore the ‘open hearts, open hands’ ceremony then make a time where you can be together uninterrupted.  Discuss what your gifts and your hands represent to each other. Then turn them into sentences similar to the above example. If you need a helping ‘hand’ you can discuss it with your celebrant or priest or email me.
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Heidi, Cairns
Hi Wendy, I have been reading through your site and from feeling overwhelmed at the whole wedding planning now feel more relaxed!

Candy & Lincoln, Sydney, NSW
Your book gave us an insight as to what the important aspects of a perfect ceremony are. Had I not read your book I don’t know whether I would have put so much thought into the most memorable part of our wedding.
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