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quotation markSpeeches at weddings can be a wonderful opportunity to express gratitude and joy however they have to be given great consideration in order for this moment to be lost in embarrassment or boredom!

Traditionally the father of the bride speaks first, followed by the groom and then the best man. But traditions aren’t what they used to be – you can create your own traditions. This is an occasion where you could invite any family member or friend to offer a few words. And if you, the bride would like to speak, then of course you should do so. If you are both speaking, you may wish to stand together and divide the contents of the speech between you, or you can prepare and present totally separate speeches. If this is the case, it may be an idea to compare notes and ensure that you aren’t both covering the same areas, particularly when it comes to expressing gratitude.

Whoever you choose to speak (and make sure there aren’t too many speakers) – give them plenty of time to prepare and give them a very clear and strict time limit (3-5 minutes maximum). Let your master of ceremonies know the order of speeches and give them some background information on any of the speakers that they may not know very well. To avoid any embarrassment, ensure that the speakers and the MC are introduced to each other as early as possible; otherwise the MC may find him/herself introducing the wrong person.

Traditionally speeches are held at the end of the meal however more couples are choosing to have them earlier – either before the meal starts or between courses. If this is the case your MC, as it is his responsibility, needs to ensure that the timing of the speeches goes to schedule as the kitchen staff will be working to a precise timetable and long overdrawn speeches can upset your well laid plans and people will get impatient for their food if they are hungry. Also, even the attention of the most attentive guests will wander if the speeches go on for too long. Take note: short, sincere and heartfelt speeches work really well!
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